Schedule time for the discussion
Some couples never talk about their wedding night simply because they don’t make time for the discussion. Scheduling is tough, especially in the few weeks approaching your wedding day. Chances are that you’re both working full time, and on top of that, you have to deal with caterers, florists, DJs, ministers, and tons of other people necessary for the big day to happen. You might not have a spare moment to think, let alone talk about love on your wedding night!

The key is to use your wedding party to delegate errands and other tasks. They are your friends and family and they will want to help. Of course, not everything can fall on the shoulders of your best man or maid of honor, but when it comes to dropping off checks, picking up the cake, confirming appointments, and so forth, you certainly don’t have to do these tasks all by yourself. Hand out jobs to those you trust most. Then you and your soon-to-be spouse will have a dedicated block of time to sit down and talk about your wedding night as the wedding date draws nearer.

Be honest
Being honest about love is one of the most fundamental parts of making a relationship work. It is to your mutual benefit that you tell the truth about what you expect from love on your wedding night and honeymoon.  Even if the two of you have already been active for some time, both of you should talk about expectations about your wedding night and honeymoon. If your wedding night is the first time for you to make love, it is especially important to talk openly with each other about anything that might be on your minds.

Plan for problems
When you talk about your wedding night, discuss a few potential problems. What will you do if one person is really tired? What will you do if you’re drunk? Who is responsible for remembering the condoms? You can plan ahead for these things in order to make your wedding night glitch-free. Remember, however, that there will always be problems. Instead of setting your expectations extremely high, try to let things happen naturally. You’ll be less stressed out that way, and you’ll be better able to react to problems that do arise.